Im Confused With A Girl Problem, What Does This Mean? Ladies?
Sorry, its long.
Ok, so I like this girl and she never texts me to say whats up, she always uses an excuse to talk to me because she is shy, but she does text often.
So I went out to a party last wednesday with a few of friends and I met a group of females that were really good looking and two of the girls were eyeing me. Well they added me on facebook and have been leaving flirty comments on my facebook wall, like 3-4 from each since friday.
Sooo the girl I like has a long distance relationship with a guy and he is supposed to return in april but she sees him every 3 weeks for a day. So she has been giving me weird and mixed signals but today I woke up to find 3 comments all over my new facebook pics and wall from her. This is the second time she is the first one to comment my profile pic, within hours of putting it up. She doesn’t comment anyone else.
“im loving that scarf”
“omg lmao your status from yesterday is sooo ******* funny lmao
“tu eres muy bueno” (you look nice)
Then she text me, just to ask me how I was doing, like for the first time, no excuses, just a plain “heyyy how are you doing” and then she was asking me about my thanksgiving and etc.
Then im like “tell me something new” and then she brings in the long distance relationship and tells me “he maybe coming back home this month” and im like “but wasnt it april?” and she said “yeah, but his job might end early and he can return now, and if not, then 100% april”
Then i told her “i hope he doesn’t break your heart, id be mad lol” and she said “yeah i hope he doesn’t, he is mad at me right now because i told him im not going to be clingy when he returns and he said why not i want you to be clingy, is someone filling your head with ideas?”
Then i said, “well im happy for you, like it or not you’ve grown on me, and i wouldn’t want to see you hurt, but yeah why arnt you gonna be clingy?” and then she stopped responding, but i think my text message service is messed up, so i might get a response later.
Im just really confused with things, why did she leave commens and tried talking to me, and then bring up the long term guy?
At one point i put a lot of hope that me and her would be together, but somewhere along the way i gave up hope. i dont know why she means so much to me, but if i cant have her its cool, i just dont get why she did this.
BTW she knows i have a thing for her. Also I just saw she updated her myspace with a new picture i asked her to put, with her mood as “blessed” and status as “;” a wink, which I always use with her.
November 27th, 2009 at 3:47 am
Who knows we’re female and every girl is different. But personally, I wouldn’t be texting a guy and writing on his facebook pictures etc if i didn’t like him. Where it gets confusing is that she’s talking to you about her boyfriend. Which I’m sure is what confuses you as well. I would say just keep talking to her letting her know you’re there as a friend, don’t try to come between them, if you really like her you’ll wait until she’s not in a relationship anymore.
Also, long distance is hard, us girls like to have a guy that’s with us paying attention to us at all times, so maybe that’s what she’s looking for with you.
Hope this helps and good luck!
November 27th, 2009 at 3:50 am
Girls like it when you chase them, they really do. She may have thought that it was flattering that you liked her and she knew you’d always be there.
But then those other girls started leaving you messages on your facebook. She might’ve been worried that you’ll move on and she could be jealous.
She may like you too and just might not have the guts like you to tell you so.
Sounds like she felt threatened that you’d get in with someone else.
Also sometimes girls like to make the guys jealous. . . so maybe that is why she brought up the other guy. Whether he is coming home or not, sounds like she could have a thing for you. . . and saying that she won’t be clingy to her boyfriend when he gets home, sounds like a hint that. . . she isn’t as close with him and someone else has got her attention
November 27th, 2009 at 4:30 am
she is just as confused as you are! she obviously still likes the guy that she is with but he has been away and you are there and you are something new and different. it is a tricky situation. if you like her you should continue to hang out with her and stuff. then if they break up you can be there to pick up all the pieces. good luck!
November 27th, 2009 at 4:48 am
maybe she wanted to find out how you felt about her? or maybe she wanted to flirt with some one to get her mind off of the other guy? I do that sometimes. . . sorry guys. . . girls are cruel.